The Cunning Pussy!


CHILDREN are routinely accused of doing wrong by their parents or guardians, found guilty, and sentenced to some form of punishment – often without a trial and irrespective of their cries of innocence.

Yes, I know, children also often lie! They lie because they see us lie. They lie because we often disbelief the truth and are more prone to believe the lies. They lie because of the fear of punishment. But, sometimes, they tell the truth and – if nurtured – they learn to always tell the truth.

Undeserved Beatings

Recently my friend shared a story from her childhood which got me thinking about parenting skills.

She was about nine at the time and lived with her sister (three years her senior) and her grandparents in Chapleton in Clarendon. Her grandfather worked in a feeding store in a nearby town and had a set time to return home in the evenings.

As was typical in those days, her grandmother would prepare the evening meal for the family and share out Grandpa’s portion and leave it covered on the table.

Inexplicably, however, (for a period) every evening – by the time Grandpa got home – it was evident that someone had eaten out a portion of the meal.

Her Grandmother – by process of deduction – determined that, since her two grandchildren were the only other persons in the home, they must be the culprits! And, since neither would admit to the act, she would repeatedly punish both!

Alright, alright – this is Jamaica – no pretty stuff … Grandma beat the daylights out of the girls every single day that it happened!

Until one day … Grandma caught the pussy cat on the table!

The cat used its paws to remove the plastic covering (I think Jamaicans call it a ‘fly catcher’) – ate what it desired and – yes – then replaced it over the food.

Well, this is Jamaica again, and I can’t (or rather won’t) tell you what Grandma did with the  cat …

Needless to say, the beatings stopped!

My friend cannot recall if her Grandmother ever apologised to her or her sister for the undeserved beatings. But, she does remember her Grandpa saying ‘sorry’!

Years later, and repeatedly, in moments of reminiscing, however, the whole family has been able to laugh about the period.

Are you Guilty?

This story has got me thinking. Am I (or you) guilty of similar acts? Have we accused our children and found them guilty of doing something that – of a fact – they did not do? Have we done it to a family member, a friend, a co-worker or a brother or sister in the Church?

Have we made amends (yet) when we found that we were wrongfully accusing them?

Children are often defenceless and can’t demand their rights and only time heals (somewhat) the wounds. In the case of others, our pride prevents us from admitting our wrong and the festering hurt yields broken relationships.

It’s Time

Perhaps, on the eve of the breaking of a new year, we can all take time out to reflect on whether there are any scars that need healing or broken fences that need mending. A phone call; or maybe a walk to a sibling’s room for a chat could be a start.

Maybe, the person who was offended has passed on; but a recognition of your guilt is a beginning – even as you also forgive yourself for the pain you caused.

Now’s a good time to make new endings!

Walk good, ’til next time …

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13 Responses to The Cunning Pussy!

  1. HI Counselor,

    As a fellow blogger, was passing by. I truly loved your post about the Pussy and it made me search my own soul. I need to acknowledge the very powerful perspective you have provided.

    Cheers

    Shakti

  2. Petry says:

    True word sir!

    While reading this blog, I immediately remembered a devotional I read recently (I think it was New Year’s eve). It had the same message/theme about mending what has been broken for the new year.

    To me, nothing happens by chance…so maybe, just maybe, God is trying to get my attention (once again) through your blog.

    Thanks.

    Keep writing!

  3. I have been guilty of berating my child of 4 for doing something she didn’t. When I learn that I’ve made a mistake, I apologize as sincerely as I can. In many ways it is a learning experience for the both of us. She learns that while she must take direction from those with more experience and wisdom she must remember that they can make mistakes.

  4. Cinnamon says:

    I really like this one! I learned a long time ago the importance of trusting children and listening to them. They may not always tell the truth, but more often than not, they do.

    • counselor77 says:

      Yes Cemon – listening to our children is very important. And, we also need to pay attention to the things they do not say; their moods and their attitudes. Sometimes they are crying out for attention, but we are not in tune enough to notice, much less hear.

  5. Cinnamon says:

    I really like this one!

  6. wendy campbell says:

    This is so true I too have been guilty. Yes it is a tad embarrassing to apologize to ur kids but its rewarding n gives them the confidence to b themselves with u. Thanks Audley

    • counselor77 says:

      Yes, Wendy! And another thing, when we practice listening to our children and trusting them and being fair in our treatment; we encourage them to trust us and to be more honest to us. Thanks for stopping by – hope you’ll stay for the ride.

  7. paul distant says:

    true words, very funny story counselor. Makes me remember anytime i accuse my daughter wrongfully she always demands and apology. she expects it everytime and so too will she expect an apology from any man who she settles with if an apology is necessary. great blog to reflect on i think i need to make a few apologies to before tommorrow.. Paul Distant

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